Wednesday, March 29, 2017

Lent 2017

Each year Lent comes, often we are unprepared to face this time of reflection and re-evaluation.  Unlike the sun,  moon, planets, and stars which follow a set rhythm of existence, the human soul has the freedom of a will.  Each and every morning the sun rises the same way, in the same direction and even though the colors may differ, still there is a certain rhyme and rhythm.  Each night the moon is where it is supposed to be; full, waxing or does what it's the rhythm dictates.  There is no wrong, nothing to think about, only the right and perfect way for these God-made things to act.  Now for the human nature, this is very different since life choices are purely a human freedom.  Lent is a time for re-evaluation.

Man has a higher priority set before him/her that does not match anything else God created.  It is in this existence that responsibility and Love play key roles.  No other element or entity has the gift of free will that causes life or death to the soul. No other element or entity has a soul. So there you have it, the need for love and responsibility.  Like no other entity in God's creation, man has the freedom of living or dying in sin.  By making choices according to God's laws, the natural law of creation built with the main ingredient of love, man chooses to go his way, or God's way.  This is a responsibility that is not really free, making good choices, following rules and laws, making sacrifices makes life challenging at times.

There is no better time to reflect on our choices than during Lent.  This is a time made for us to sit back and take a look at his/her life and the choices made.  These choices reflect the desire whether to be good or not.  Whether God is important or self more important; whether life is the goal or self satisfaction existence the goal, or whether love and responsibility is primary rather than selfishness. A clear-cut inventory of these choices and their outcome help see where changes need to be made.
Lent is also the time when prayer life can be revisited too.   Prayer and the relationship with God is so imperative to making good choices.  Through prayer, which simply put, is reaching out and communicating with God, true belief and love grows.  Love and prayer grow stronger and the relationship with God strengthens.  Strengthening the relationship with God enables one to make good choices.

It is never too late to re-evaluate the life choices that are being made.

Monday, February 20, 2017

Multi wife...

On February 13th, my husband and I will celebrate 24 years of marriage. During these 24 years, he has been married to probably 3 different people.....maybe 4. Let me explain:

The first woman he married was young, beautiful, and excited about life. The prospect of new adventures and the children she will have with her new husband were invigorating to her.  She had been a strong single woman for years and met the man of her dreams who swept her off her feet.  The world and her life was all ahead of her. 
The second woman my husband married was a new mother, with babies, a stay-at-home mom, changing diapers, chasing toddlers, and living day-to-day in the throes of the building and keeping the home happy, comfortable, and welcoming.  She was in love with her husband, children and the life she was living.
The third woman my husband married was the mother of teenagers and young adults achieving their goals, making friends, high school, grades, sports, music lessons and growing in their spiritual lives. With the oldest marrying and leaving the nest, the others struggling with their inner growth, boyfriends, heartbreaks, graduation and college, the children began to need her less and her arms began to feel lighter and less began to feel different.

The fourth woman my husband married is the present one who is in the throes of a transition.  My children are scattering, busy, and days can go by without hearing from them or seeing them.  The house seems empty, large, and painfully quiet. At this point in my life, I am realizing that I had made NO plans for what remained for me as my own person.  For the past few years, I have worked a job where I walked Walmarts, grocery stores, and target stores checking on mayonnaise, hair care products, and ice cream....most of these products I don't even use, much less care about.   It basically sucked the life out of me.....I cried every Monday gloomy Sunday evenings, dragged around at night after a long day on my feet and never worked on any of my hobbies. 

Hobbies are good to have and hold on to despite how busy one is.  The creative outlet that these jewels provide are life enhancing, inspiring, soul-recovering, and a source of joy.  Whether it is gardening, sewing, cooking, or bird-watching, whatever it is, don't let it go...don't forget it, and by all means, don't let it gather dust.  Family and hobbies are the best for getting through this life and especially a joyless, drudge job.

Our Family at our middle child's wedding.

Friday, December 30, 2016

The Will of God....Good and bad?

The things that happen to us throughout our lives are known by our Heavenly Father way before we were even born.   He knows what we say, think, do, He knows us inside and out without a word spoken.  Amazing to think of this as a mom, I know my kids forwards and backwards, but no, I really don't, not to this extent anyway.

God's Will
The things that happen to us throughout our lives are known by our Heavenly Father way before our birth.   He knows what we say, think, do, He knows us inside and out without a word spoken.  It is humbling to think of this as a mom, I do not know my children to this extent.

Everything that happens to us and around us...God allows.  There is a reason for the good and the bad things that happen to us. It is hard to rationalize, however, why God would let bad things happen to those little ones that he loves.  I find it tremendously hard not to try to save my children from harm or a hard life  bad.  A friend told me once, "I've warned my children that there is no limit to my craziness when it comes to them."  I have to agree wholeheartedly on this for me, as well, when it comes to my family. But there again a lesson learned the hard way is most often committed to memory...forever.  The serenity prayer comes in handy during these times.  It is probably the best prayer for raising children.

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things
that I can change and the
wisdom to know the difference.

Can we, or are we able to trust our Heavenly Father?  Trusting God's will is having blind faith, courage to face the unknown, or the known that is not too comforting perhaps.  Mary's "Yes" is one example of trusting in both God's will and facing the scary known: the penalty of being discovered pregnant and not by the man she was betrothed to.  Trust she did and God took care of  her and the baby in the outcome.  Throughout the bible the ancients' stories consist of times when God or His messengers brought orders, curious directions, or prophetic advice that made them follow and trust in His will.  Now, however, it doesn't seem that we get the same luxury.  But it was quiet then.

Oh the noise, noise, noise!  In these times of smartphones, computers, and instant messaging it seems as though we trust in something other than ourselves much less our God.  Listening to hear the voice of wisdom has been reduced to Google, WikiLeaks, and Facebook rather than religious, parents, and the Bible.   Getting anyone to put down the device and go face to face instead of Face Time is nearly impossible without resistance.  Looking for silence in a noisy world, to stop the interactions and social time with strangers and distant audiences in search of conviction and legitimacy screams in the face of true logic and self-authenticity, truth, and spiritual direction.

Amidst this craziness of modern times, God's will is still there...waiting for our trust and courage.  It will come good or bad, and it will be at the hands of God for a reason.  What reason is unknown, but one thing that I do know, it will be for a good.   He wants to prepare us, or strengthen us, or perhaps show us a new direction to proceed in life.  Good or bad, it will be for the best and it will come whether we are on our smartphone, face timing with a friend, or reading this blog post.

The key is being open and trusting in our Heavenly Father that what he does is always for a good.  There is nothing from our God that is evil or without love....nothing.

Monday, November 28, 2016

The Power of a Woman

Amidst the discussion of the still-not-up-to-par status of the female equality in the corporate world, society has left off a very huge, but under-prioritized element of our society: the children. Women who want it all, money, career, power, etc that comes only with a corporate position is the socially accepted goal....but really what about these children? These youngsters are stuck in childcare, with nannies, or wherever with little or no really relationship with their parents, especially their mother.

A corporate life is not all that it is cracked up to being when it comes to the deathbed of a mother who spent her entire life fighting a man on the ladder rung for the golden ring of success according to corporate society.

Feminism has completely come undone when it comes to recognizing and utilizing the strength, power, and influence of a woman in the world. No, her strength doesn't measure up in the corporate world to what she can do for a child frightened of the dark.  No, her power is not as prominent to her co-workers/peers as it is to a misbehaving child or insecure teen, and no, her influence is not as important and long-lasting as with the young children in their care. The presence of the mother in the home raising the next generation of our world cannot be properly replaced by daycare workers at minimum wage, nannies who are book-trained, or exclusive schools.

 Maybe it isn't wise for us to focus so hard on a golden ring that maybe...really isn't meant to be ours in the first place.  Maybe what we should be realizing is that the greatest and most important, influential and powerful position a woman could hold is one a man can only watch from the outside due to his lack of that feminine strength and determination and patience that only a woman has. Maybe, just maybe we have a purpose far more crucial in our world today, since we can easily turn around and see the fruits of absentee mothers in our society with more and more children having no family loyalty, anger issues, lack of security, and good morals

Sunday, November 20, 2016

Christ the King, but do we really??

Jesus stepped out of his glory for just a moment and became like us...a mere human being with all our warts, back and headaches, hunger urges, weakness, and prove to us that He gets us, completely!

The mosaic at the National Shrine of the Immaculate Conception in Washington, DC depicts the strength and glory of the risen Christ.  I was in awe the first March for Life that I attended years ago when we gathered there for Mass.  Totally taken by the reality that Christ's strength and glory surpasses anything we humans could ever conceptualize.  Today we celebrate Christ the King and begin to welcome in a new liturgical season of Advent. 

The gospel reading was about the thieves on either side of the Christ on the cross.  This scene speaks volumes to me and should to anyone who reads it.  For one thing, it reveals the hope for the future for anyone at anytime of their life when they choose to repent and ask for forgiveness.  Second, it shows how Christ forgave and had no anger whatsoever at the hands of the horrendous soldiers, thirdly, it tells of the thief's revelation and desire to partake in the glory of Christ's paradise, and also that those at the foot of the cross were witness to this whole scene and saw the truth being played out, the soldier and other disbelievers transformed.  This scene reveals to us that innocence is the largest sign of strength, humility, the biggest sign of greatness, and the tortured and dying Christ, the truest sign of life.

Why now?  Why at the end of the ordinary season and at the cusp of the preparatory season of Advent where we wait in great hope for the coming of the God-child?  Here's my take on it, the Church wants us to prepare well for the arrival of the Christ child.  Who among us really gets the greatness and glory of God in their head?  We live in a world where we are in control of so much that the reality of God's greatness has been put in the back of our minds.  During Advent, the Church wants us to take another look at Christ and see Him for who He really is, the God that is bigger than our humble comprehension, mightier than we could imagine, and more glorious than we could understand and this God of ours is coming into our existence to prove to us that He loves us that much.

So that at the very mention of His name, "every knee shall bow to me and every tongue shall give me praise to God."  Romans 14:11

Saturday, November 12, 2016

Feeding the family AND A BOOK GIVE AWAY!!!!!!!!!

It has been clearly founded that a family that shares at least one meal together each day or as many days as possible a week gives the children a security and validity that those who do not share meals together have.  Why?  Donna-Marie proves it with her newest book, "Feeding Your Family's Soul".  In this gem of a book/cookbook/prayer-book/Inspirational book/activity book is easy to find prayers, recipes to try and enjoy; like Chicken Sausage Gumbo, Taco soup, and Irish Soda Bread, and activity suggestions related to saints, seasons of the year, and sacraments to name a few.  These very simple suggestions and reflections help parents lead their children into a better quality time sharing a meal, a prayer, and delicious food.

In the hustle-bustle of everyday modern life, small things like togetherness and quality "down-time" seem to have lost it's place on the priority list in family daily life.  Donna-Marie urges and leads our families back to those slower days with grace, love, and delicious recipes.  I especially enjoyed seeing the recipes since I'm a recipe junkie, but the prayers and reflections are genuine and peaceful.  With so much angst in our world, the family need to be a place where we can come together and close the world out for the night and rejuvenate.

Many thanks to Donna-Marie and Paraclete Publishing for the 2 books, one of which I will give away to one lucky winner!    Leave a comment below and tell me a little about your family!  I'll draw a lucky winner on December 1st!!

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Saturday, September 17, 2016

Another Quote from our newest Saint

There is always the danger

 that we may just do the work

 for the sake of the work.

 This is where

 the respect and the love and the devotion come in

 --that we do it to God, to Christ,

 and that's why we try to do it as beautifully as possible.

-St. Teresa of Calcutta